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I’m glad you have a spiritual community with which to share this burden. Did it take you long to share with them? Have they held the situation in confidence? I’m envious of the kind of support you seem to have. The few friends I told about our son didn’t grasp its gravity and delusional nature. One sent me the “genderbread person”. Our son thankfully desisted after a year of being lost. The transchains lost their grip after he went to another country for a semester during college.

Sanctification is grueling. Rohr’s writings helped us navigate a significant trauma unrelated to our son. Our pastor told us that when people said they wanted so and so’s faith and strength - he’d say, really? If you only knew the cost. Unearthly joy, faith and other spiritual fruits are hard-won.

Praying for your girl, and that you keep up the fight with wisdom as you surrender to our great Lord, who sees and heals.

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Hi, Mercy, thanks for writing.

We shared it immediately, as soon as our daughter "came out". We have worked hard over the years to shape our spiritual community into a place where sorrows are carried together, never imagining that our sorrow would be so great. The situation is not a secret, and I'm fine with that. We haven't been subject to rumours or slander or even any judgement. And all of this within a theologically conservative environment.

As I have said elsewhere, I only remain somewhat anonymous for the sake of my daughter. But I regularly give my contact info to people to share with others who are experiencing this same sorrow. In the community, all of this is fairly widely known.

Sanctification... yeah. I'm sure it's happening and I know it has happened, but in the moment it just feels like pain. :-(

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Thank you for writing. Our stories need to be shared. The path is dark and the enemy is upon us. The truth, is near unbearable and the machines of industry have captured our children.

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