Should I lay down the law and risk what seems to be inevitable in a year or so anyway? Or do I continue in this stealthy love, hoping that it will break through the barrier of delusion?
Similar situation here. My daughter just turned 18 and started college (under a male name). Although she talks about wanting to move out of the house and move far away, she doesn’t have a job or a license and relies on her dad to drive her to school every day so the reality is she’s a long way from being on her own. It sounds like your daughter’s words about college may also be idle and reality will set in when she needs your help to register for and pay for college.
My son and I just got done applying for colleges. It was an ordeal. They ask for identifying gender, something I don’t remember being on there a few years ago when his older sister applied. After a bit of discussion on it all. I said when you do go to college you can choose what to tell people that you meet. But otherwise it’s non of anybodies business. So we put prefer not to answer on the icky/woke questions. He has been accepted to all the colleges he applied.
Similar situation here. My daughter just turned 18 and started college (under a male name). Although she talks about wanting to move out of the house and move far away, she doesn’t have a job or a license and relies on her dad to drive her to school every day so the reality is she’s a long way from being on her own. It sounds like your daughter’s words about college may also be idle and reality will set in when she needs your help to register for and pay for college.
I am sorry for your pain. I can relate very much. Are you able to disclose the state you are in?
Thanks. I'm in Ontario, Canada.
My son and I just got done applying for colleges. It was an ordeal. They ask for identifying gender, something I don’t remember being on there a few years ago when his older sister applied. After a bit of discussion on it all. I said when you do go to college you can choose what to tell people that you meet. But otherwise it’s non of anybodies business. So we put prefer not to answer on the icky/woke questions. He has been accepted to all the colleges he applied.